People say we learn from failures. Every failure teaches us something and is a stepping stone to success.
I think, sometimes we miss one critical aspect of this advice – we can only learn if we try to learn. What that means:
we need to be searching for learning in those moments of despair
we need to keep our ego aside and analyze us, situation and the outcomes objectively
we need to remember and/or document what we just learnt
Awareness is not enough. We can learn only when we try to.